兒童從小受父母管束，他就覺得不自在；婦女嫁人，受公婆要求，她也覺得非常不自在；服務社會，各種職業，感到不勝任、不能稱心，他就不能自在了。
所以，人生的意義，能在“自在”中生活，最為成功。
你在人我是非之前能自在嗎？你在功名富貴之前能自在嗎？
你在生老病死之前能自在嗎？你在因缘果報之中能自在嗎？
你如果活得不自在，再好的事業，再多的財富，也只是增加負担，增加束縛而已呀！你如果能在稱、譏、毁、譽、利、衰、苦、樂的“八風”境界里，都能不為所動，你自然就能自在解脱了。
When a child is under the control of his parents, he feels unhappy and unfree; when a woman gets married and is required by her in-laws, she also feels very unhappy and unfree; when serving the society and various occupations, he feels incompetent and unsatisfactory, and he is not happy nor free.
Therefore, the meaning of life is to be happy and free, which is the most successful.
Can you be happy and free being with anyone and all the rights & wrongs?
Can you be happy and free in front of the famous and rich?
Can you be happy and free about growing old, getting sick, and dying?
Can you be happy and free in karma?
If you live unhappily and unfreely, no matter how good the career and how much wealth you have, it will only increase the burden and increase the bondage! If you can stay unmoved in the realm of the "eight winds" of praise, ridicule, slander, reputation, profit, decline, suffering, and pleasure, you will naturally be happy and free.
這樣做吧. This is the how.
觀察………意識……..接受……....分析……...行動……....減阻…………習慣
Observe........Aware......Accept......Analyse......Act......Ease.......Habit
觀察你不舒服的感覺；
意識到你的消極想法；
接受他們而不與他們抗爭；
分析出有正面意義的觀點；
採取對人對己皆有益處的行動;
利用策略來減少阻力令行動更容易實行;
不斷重複, 養成常常感到幸福自在的習慣。(神經學上稱為“髓鞘形成”。)
Observe your uncomfortable feelings;
Be aware of your negative thoughts;
Accept them instead of fighting them;
Analyse calmly and interpret things with positive perspectives;
Take conscious action that is possible to benefit everyone;
Use tactics to reduce resistance to perform such action ;
Make feeling happy and free a habit by repetition as practice makes easy. (neurologically called "myelination", see below Ted-Ed video)